The Day I Realized Being 'Reliable' Was Killing My Career
I went from "reliable" mid-level to staff engineer in 3 years. The 5 moves that actually mattered—and the 3 things I wasted time on.
Priya Sharma
Tech Lead at a growing healthtech company, Priya went from CS grad to leading a team of 8 engineers in just 4 years. She writes about Python, practical ML applications, and the realities of fast-track career growth.

How I Made Staff Engineer in Three Years (And What Actually Mattered)
Three years ago, I sat in my car after a particularly brutal performance review and seriously considered switching careers entirely. Not because I was bad at engineering. I'd been crushing my tickets, shipping clean code, and even mentoring a few junior devs. My manager called me "reliable" and "technically solid."
That's when it hit me: I was on track to be "reliable" and "technically solid" for the next decade.
I was 28, four years into my career at a health tech startup in Austin, watching engineers with half my technical chops get promoted past me. If you're wondering how long it takes to become a staff engineer, here's the honest answer most people won't tell you: it depends entirely on whether you're playing the right game.
The typical timeline? It varies wildly. Anywhere from 8 to 15+ years depending on the company, your performance, and sheer opportunity. Mine? Three years from that parking lot moment to a staff engineer title. This isn't a humble brag. It's a case study in what actually moves the needle versus what we've been told matters.
What I'm going to share: the unconventional moves that compressed my timeline, the things I thought mattered but didn't, and a realistic action plan you can start this week. Some of this will probably irritate you. Good.
The Brutal Math: Typical Staff Engineer Timelines and Why Most Engineers Get Stuck
Numbers first. I'm an engineer, so I need data to believe anything.
A standard mid-level to senior to staff engineer career path looks something like this:
- Junior to Mid-Level: 2–3 years
- Mid-Level to Senior: 2–4 years
- Senior to Staff: Highly variable. Some make it in 2–3 years, others take 5+ years depending on company structure and opportunity
So if you're doing the math, you're looking at a wide range. Some engineers hit staff in 6–8 years at fast-growing companies, while others take 15+ years. There's no universal minimum, and your mileage will vary dramatically based on where you work and how you position yourself.
Why do most engineers get stuck somewhere in the middle?
They optimize for the wrong metrics. Lines of code. Tickets closed. Technical complexity of their solutions. These matter for mid-level promotions. They become nearly irrelevant for staff.
They don't understand the shift. Going from senior to staff isn't about being a better engineer. It's about being a different kind of engineer. I'll break this down later, but this single misunderstanding costs people years.
They wait to be noticed. I browse staff engineer promotion timeline Reddit threads constantly, and the pattern is painful. Engineers doing incredible work, waiting for someone to tap them on the shoulder. That tap rarely comes.
Here's what nobody says out loud: your promotion timeline has maybe 40% to do with your actual engineering skills. Everything else is positioning, visibility, and understanding what your company actually needs from staff-level engineers.
What Actually Got Me Promoted: 5 Moves That Mattered (and 3 That Didn't)
Let me be specific about what got me promoted to staff engineer because vague advice helps nobody.
Five Things That Actually Mattered
1. I adopted an orphaned system everyone hated.
We had this legacy data pipeline that processed patient health records. It was a mess. Nobody wanted to touch it. I volunteered not because I wanted the technical challenge, but because I realized it touched every team in the company. Within six months, I was the person everyone came to when they needed data. That's leverage.
2. I started writing decision documents before anyone asked.
When we faced architectural choices, I'd write up the options with trade-offs before the meeting. Not because I was asked to, but because it's what staff engineers do. Eventually, people started expecting it. By the time I was being evaluated for staff, I had a paper trail of technical leadership.
3. I found a senior staff engineer and made myself useful.
Her name was Maria. She was drowning in work, and nobody was helping because everyone was focused on their own promotion trajectory. I started taking things off her plate, small stuff at first, then bigger initiatives. She became my biggest advocate. [Link: finding mentors in tech]
4. I got comfortable saying "I don't know, but I'll figure it out."
Mid-level me would've pretended to understand everything. Staff-track me learned that admitting gaps and then filling them fast was far more impressive than faking expertise.

5. I documented everything and shared it widely.
Every architectural decision, every postmortem, every process improvement: I published it internally where leadership could see it. This felt self-promotional at first. It's not. It's giving future engineers context they desperately need.
Three Things I Thought Mattered But Didn't
Learning every new framework. I spent months becoming an expert in tools we never ended up using. Massive waste of time.
Solving the hardest technical problems. Turns out, the problems that get you promoted aren't always the hardest. They're the most visible and impactful.
Being the fastest coder on the team. Speed matters at junior and mid levels. At staff level, slowing down to make better decisions matters more.
Mid-Level to Senior to Staff: Three Distinct Skill Shifts Nobody Explains
This is the section I wish someone had given me years ago. Here's the mid-level to senior to staff engineer career path explained simply:
Mid-Level to Senior: Scope Expansion
You go from "I can solve the problems given to me" to "I can identify and solve problems independently." Your sphere of influence expands from your own code to your team's codebase. You start having opinions about architecture. You mentor junior folks.
Skills needed for staff engineer promotion start developing here: technical communication, cross-team awareness, and thinking in systems rather than features.
Senior to Staff: Influence Multiplication
This is where most people stall. And the shift isn't about becoming a better individual contributor. It's about multiplying your impact through others.
Staff engineers succeed by:
- Setting technical direction that others follow
- Unblocking teams through expertise and decision-making
- Identifying problems before they become crises
- Creating leverage through documentation, tools, and processes
You know how I mentioned I went from mid-level to staff engineer in three years? My secret was recognizing this shift early and practicing staff-level skills while I was still senior.
Tech Lead to Staff Engineer Transition
A quick note here because this trips people up: tech lead and staff engineer aren't the same ladder.
Making the tech lead to staff engineer transition requires shifting from "I manage this team's technical execution" to "I influence technical direction across multiple teams." Some tech leads never make this jump because they're too attached to their single team's success.
The Visibility Problem: Why Your Best Work Isn't Getting Noticed
I spend probably too much time reading staff engineer promotion timeline Reddit threads. A painful pattern keeps showing up:
"I've been senior for 4 years. I built the most complex system at my company. I'm the technical expert everyone relies on. Why haven't I been promoted?"
Almost always the same answer: nobody who matters knows about it.
Look, I'm not saying you need to become a shameless self-promoter. I'm South Asian. My parents raised me to keep my head down and let work speak for itself. That advice is actively harmful for career advancement in tech.
What actually works?
Send weekly updates to your skip-level manager. Bullet points. What you worked on, what impact it had, what blockers you're seeing. Takes 10 minutes. Creates visibility.
Present at internal tech talks. Even if it's just a 15-minute slot, you need people outside your immediate team to know your name.

Write postmortems that get shared widely. When something breaks and you fix it, that document should circulate. Frame it as learning for the org, not "look how smart I am."
Get on high-visibility projects. Sometimes the technically boring project that executives care about will do more for your career than the fascinating technical challenge nobody important understands.
Staff engineer vs. senior engineer responsibilities include visibility management. It's not vanity. It's part of the job.
Staff Engineer vs. Senior Engineer: The Responsibility Gap That Trips Everyone Up
Let me be concrete about the staff engineer vs. senior engineer responsibilities difference:
| Senior Engineer | Staff Engineer |
|---|---|
| Executes within defined scope | Defines scope for self and others |
| Solves problems on their team | Solves problems across teams |
| Has technical opinions | Creates technical strategy |
| Mentors individuals | Raises the bar for engineering culture |
| Writes great code | Decides what code should be written |
Promotion committees aren't asking "Is this person really good at their current job?" They're asking "Is this person already doing the next job?"
That's the secret. You don't get promoted into staff responsibilities. You demonstrate staff responsibilities and then get the title to match.
Choosing Your Battlefield: How Company Size and Culture Affect Your Timeline
Something that doesn't get discussed enough: where you work dramatically affects how long it takes to become a staff engineer.
Early-stage startups (under 50 engineers): Titles are fuzzy. You might get staff in 2–3 years just by being there and being good. But the title might not transfer well to other companies.
Growth-stage startups (50–300 engineers): This is where I was. Titles start mattering. There's enough chaos that high performers can accelerate, but enough structure that the title means something. My sweet spot.
Big tech (FAANG and similar): Extremely well-defined levels. Harder to game or accelerate. Staff might take 8–10 years but comes with significant compensation and clear transferability.
Traditional enterprises: Often staff doesn't exist, or it means something completely different. Timeline is highly variable.
I made a deliberate choice to stay at a growth-stage company because I knew skills needed for a successful staff engineer promotion would develop faster there. Less process meant more opportunity to demonstrate leadership.
Your 90-Day Action Plan: From Reading to Doing
Alright, enough theory. If you're serious about accelerating your timeline, here's what to do in the next 90 days.
Days 1–30: Assessment
- Have an explicit conversation with your manager about what staff looks like at your company
- Identify 2–3 staff engineers and study what they actually do day-to-day
- Audit your current work: how much is execution vs. leadership?
- Find the orphaned system or unloved project that touches multiple teams
Days 31–60: Repositioning
- Start writing decision documents for technical choices, even if not asked
- Begin sending weekly updates to your skip-level
- Volunteer for one cross-team initiative
- Identify a senior staff engineer who might mentor you
- [Link: how to find engineering mentors]
Days 61–90: Demonstrating
- Present something internally, even if small
- Write a postmortem or technical document that gets shared outside your team
- Take on a small piece of scope that's currently unowned
- Start tracking your impact in terms leadership cares about (revenue, reliability, velocity)
My promise: if you do these things consistently, you'll either accelerate your timeline at your current company, or you'll build the evidence needed to skip levels when you interview elsewhere.
Forget timelines. The real question is whether you're willing to play a different game than the one you've been taught.
I almost quit engineering because I thought the game was about being the best coder. It's not. It's about creating leverage, demonstrating leadership, and making your impact visible.
That's the shortcut. It's not really a shortcut at all. It's just playing the actual game instead of the one we imagined.
Now get to work.
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